the rules don’t bend

Play does not equate to genital contact and PIV sex. It can mean a wide array of BDSM or kink activity that does not have to be explicitly sexual. It can mean sex but it does not have to. If you understand the word play to solely mean penetrative sex then UnScene is not the event for you.

You must have ongoing, informed, enthusiastic consent from all parties in a scene. If you’re not sure- ask!

No means no. Nothing is ever assumed.

You must also:

  • Be aged 21+ and a member of UnScene to attend UnScene parties and socials. Membership is gained through successful application.

  • Not touch guests or staff without their consent.

  • Not interrupt a scene, no matter how well you know someone. 

  • Never assume that because someone is in this kind of space, they want to play. Play is never expected.

  • Not be afraid to say no to something you don’t fully enthusiastically want to do.

  • Not be overly intoxicated.

  • While we want you to be comfortable- Avoid wearing sequins, fancy dress, cosplay, ‘festival’ wear, feather headdresses, office wear and steampunk style. Please also avoid glitter. Please make an effort. Check our IG for inspo.

  • Be responsible for yourself and your pal(s).

  • Ask if you are unsure of someone’s pronouns.

  • Be tolerant of others. Hatred towards any group based on gender, sexuality, race, disability and any other protected characteristics will result in ejection.

  • Not solo wank. This means watching another scene and masturbating without consent of those you are watching.

  • Be sensitive to others’ personal space, triggers and trauma.

  • Not be a cruiser. While this is a space to create and sustain human interaction, please do so in a way that would make us proud. No slime balls. Be friendly, be kind, be flirty, sure, but don’t be creepy or coercive or toxic or expect things in return. It’s quite simple!

  • Not use sharps, knives or engage in blood, vomit or toilet play at this event.

  • Keep the play space tidy and clean. Wipe down equipment after use. Dispose of all condoms, packets, everything, into the bins provided.

  • Negotiate boundaries and limits before starting a scene with someone. Accept that risk is present within all play.

  • Use safewords during scenes. Red is a universal safe word which means the scene must be stopped immediately. The traffic light system of Green (Go!), Yellow (approaching limit) and Red (Stop immediately) is a good system to use if you’re unsure.

  • Implement and establish aftercare with your scene partner(s). This means how do you look after and have yourself looked after in return someone once play is over. A snack, a hug, a sit down, some water?

  • Not take photos or use your phone in public spaces at the event. You can tag @Unscene_ldn in your outfit photos before you leave your house.

  • Speak to our welfare staff if you have any issues with anyone or for advice on how to use any of the equipment.


POLICY

UnScene is designed to be a welcoming, safe environment dedicated to play. It is not a big club night. UnScene will do everything it can to ensure the humans attending are safe and sound and responsible. It is important you act appropriately, take responsibility and do not over intoxicate.


Unscene Policy

  1. Introduction and Scope:

This document sets out the safeguarding and welfare policy for Unscene. It applies to all guests, members, staff and collaborators. It covers behaviour during events, workshops, socials, any official communications linked to the event, and in any external settings where behaviour could impact the safety or wellbeing of other attendees.

This policy is written and enforced by Viper Safeguarding, with the agreement of Unscene.

The purpose of this policy is to:

  • Set out behavioural expectations clearly

  • Prevent harm and manage risk

  • Support consistent, structured responses to complaints or incidents

  • Establish consequences for rule-breaking

This policy may be updated at any time in line with ongoing consultation and feedback. All decisions taken under this policy follow the procedures outlined in the sections that follow.

2. Code of Conduct

All guests, collaborators, and team members at Unscene are expected to follow the behavioural standards outlined below. These expectations apply throughout the event space, including play areas, social spaces, toilets, cloakrooms, and during entry and exit.

Membership and access to Unscene is conditional on agreeing to and upholding these standards at all times.

Consent

  • Consent must be informed, ongoing, and freely given.

  • No touching, initiating scenes, or engaging others without clear, enthusiastic agreement.

  • Stop means stop. Red means stop. Hesitation, silence, or uncertainty means stop.

  • Consent is required for all interaction, not just play.

Physical Contact and Play

  • Do not interrupt scenes.

  • Do not touch or involve yourself with any other guest’s play without invitation.

  • Solo masturbation is not permitted.

  • Never assume someone is available to play based on how they are dressed, where they are, or who they are with.

  • Respect aftercare and do not intrude.

Respect and Conduct

  • Do not engage in any behaviour that could be perceived as coercive, aggressive, or entitled.

  • Do not pressure anyone to talk, play, disclose, or engage.

  • Kindness and curiosity are welcome. Persistent pursuit or disregard for boundaries is not.

  • Guests must manage their own sobriety. Anyone who’s intoxication negatively impacts others or becomes unsafe to manage will be removed.

  • Use people's correct names and pronouns. If unsure, ask politely or avoid gendered terms.

  • Hate speech, racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, or any other form of discrimination will result in removal. 

  • Guests cameras are not allowed or must be covered.  

3. Dress Code

Unscene expects all guests to put effort into their outfit. Outfits should reflect the tone of the event. This is not a casual night out, a festival, or a costume party.

You may be refused entry if your outfit is inappropriate, disruptive, or does not meet the dress code.

Not Permitted

  • Glitter, sequins, or anything that sheds

  • Fancy dress or cosplay

  • Festival wear, office wear, casual clothing, steampunk styling

  • Feather headdresses or novelty or culturally insensitive outfits

 Encouraged

  • Clothing that reflects your identity or relationship to kink, play, or performance

  • Avant Garde, off the wall and unique outfits. 

  • Outfits that are intentional, comfortable, and appropriate for the space

  • Styling that supports connection and does not interfere with consent

If you're unsure what counts, check our Instagram for inspiration. If you’re still unsure, contact the organisers before the event.

4. Cameras and Photography

Unscene is a private, members-only event. Privacy and consent are central to everything we do. Photography is strictly controlled. No guest may take photos inside the venue, and no one may be photographed without explicit, informed consent.

Guest Rules

  • Do not take photos or videos inside the event space.

  • Do not film or photograph scenes, other guests, or the venue interior.

  • Guests found breaking these rules may be removed immediately.

Official Photography

If Unscene chooses to document an event:

  • Only guests who give verbal and visual consent will be included.

  • Should you be concerned about a photo taken of you, or that you may be in the background of please check with the photographer to see any photos you believe you are in. 

  • Any photos of yourself you do not wish to exist will be destroyed. 

Wristband System

All guests will be given the option to wear a no-photo wristband. At the door or throughout the night from staff.
If you are wearing a wristband, you will not be photographed under any circumstances, even if others around you have consented.
Photographers are briefed to check wristbands before shooting. If you are unsure, wear one.

Digital Image and Usage Consent

Unscene occasionally documents events through approved photographers. Any images captured are handled with care and used only in line with guest consent.

Use and Storage
Approved photographs may be published:

  • On Unscene’s password-protected members-only gallery, where images can be blurred or removed on request.

  • On Unscene’s official social media channels (such as Instagram), only if guests have provided clear consent at the time of capture.

  • You can DM organisers to ask to be tagged or removed from published photos. 

Revoking Consent
Guests may withdraw their consent at any time. To do so, they can contact the organisers directly or send a message via Instagram to request removal or tagging changes. Unscene will ensure any identifiable images are taken down or amended promptly.

5. Membership and Application Policy

Unscene is a private, membership-only event. All guests must apply in advance and be approved before they are invited to attend. This ensures a safer, more intentional space.

Eligibility

  • All applicants must be aged 21 or over.

  • You must provide accurate and honest answers in your application.

  • You must not be banned from similar spaces without disclosure.


    UnScene applicants are not required to provide references but must demonstrate understanding of consent and community safety.

Failure to meet any of the above may result in rejection or removal from membership.

Application Process

  • Applications are submitted through the website form.

  • Applicants will be asked about their interest in kink, understanding of consent, and previous event experience.

  • Responses are reviewed by the UnScene team and assessed for safety, compatibility, and risk.

  • Approval or rejection is communicated by email.

Applications may be held or delayed if additional information is needed. The team may contact you for clarification or a follow-up chat.

Vetting and Data Handling

  • Unscene only holds the data submitted in your application.

  • Data is stored securely and accessed only by the founder and administrative lead.

  • No data is ever shared with third parties.

  • You may request to see or remove your data at any time.

Reapplication and Rejection

  • Unscene reserves the right to reject membership they believe they cannot effectively manage your behaviour in the space.

  •  Rejected applicants may not reapply unless explicitly invited.

  • If invited to reapply, you must wait a minimum of three months before submitting a new application.

  • You may not attend as someone else’s guest if your own membership has been declined.

  • Rejections are final and not up for appeal. 

6. The Pal System (Buddy Up)

The pal system applies to main parties only. It does not apply to socials or play socials, where guests may attend alone.

Eligibility and Requirements

  • UnScene members must attend parties with at least one pal or within a small group.

  • Scene members may attend parties independently.

  • Each pal or group member must have an approved application and be listed as a confirmed attendee.

Arrival and Check-Ins

  • Pals are expected to arrive and leave together wherever possible.

  • If someone joins a group, that group must collect them on entry.

  • Pals do not have to remain together throughout the event but must check in with one another periodically to ensure mutual wellbeing.

Accountability

  • Pals share mutual responsibility for each other’s safety and behaviour during the event.

  • If a guest is asked to leave, their pal (or pals) will also be required to leave.

  • In cases of intoxication, organisers expect that pals will assist in ensuring each other’s safe departure from the venue.

  • Where serious misconduct occurs (e.g. assault or harassment), the pal’s continued membership may also be reviewed, depending on context and case-by-case assessment.

Purpose
The pal system reinforces community accountability. It encourages guests to attend with trusted peers and to choose companions carefully, understanding that they share responsibility for maintaining the event’s safety and culture.

7. Accountability and Welfare Processes

Unscene is committed to maintaining a safer space for all attendees. This policy outlines how reports are made, how they are handled, and how decisions are reached. It applies to conduct during events and, in some cases, outside of them.
All decisions are managed by Viper Safeguarding, with oversight from the Unscene organisers.

Making a Report

During an Event

  • Guests can report concerns to the welfare team (in flashing armbands).

  • Reports can be made verbally or in writing at any point during the event.

  • Where needed, a quiet area will be made available for reporting.

After an Event

  • Reports about an event can be submitted via email within 14 days of the event. Reports submitted after 14 days may still be reviewed at the discretion of Viper Safeguarding, particularly where new evidence or ongoing risk is identified. 

  • Reports about behaviour outside of Scene spaces or events can be reported via email at any time.

  • Anonymous reporting is permitted, though full anonymity may limit what action can be taken.

What Can Be Reported

Unscene takes all reports seriously. These include, but are not limited to:

  • Any breaches of the Code of Conduct

  • Breaches of consent

  • Coercive, creepy, or harassing behaviour

  • Breaches of house rules

  • Use of slurs or discriminatory language

  • Disregard for play etiquette, personal space, or boundaries

  • Any illegal or harmful behaviour

You can also flag concerns about outside behaviour, including:

  • Unresolved incidents at other events

  • Repeated harm or breaches in other communities

  • Persistent targeting, contact, or unwanted proximity 

We encourage guests to be honest and specific. Gossip, slander, or bad-faith accusations will not be tolerated.

Malicious or False Reports

Reports made in good faith are welcomed, even if difficult to phrase or submitted with limited information.
However, intentionally false or malicious reports. Especially those intended to punish, discredit, or retaliate will be taken seriously.
If a report is found to be knowingly dishonest or submitted in bad faith, the reporting party may receive a warning or be removed.

Responsibility

  • Viper Safeguarding holds primary responsibility for disclosure handling.

  • Complaints will not be investigated by close friends or involved parties.
    All complaints are logged, even if no action is taken.

Outcomes

Depending on the nature and context of the complaint, possible outcomes include:

  • No action (with optional education or clarification)

  • Verbal warning (with specific terms attached)

  • Temporary hold (suspension from attendance while further info is gathered)

  • Ban or removal (from a single event or permanently)

  • Application rejection (if flagged at membership stage)

All outcomes will be documented. Templates will be used to ensure consistency, clarity, and fairness.

Please see Section 8. Sanctions and outcomes for further information. 

Confidentiality and Fairness

  • All reports will be handled confidentially. Please see our Data Storage and Privacy Policy. 

  • Parties involved will be informed of the outcome, but not of other guests’ private statements.

  • Victims may request not to be contacted after closure.

  • Evidence and reasoning may be summarised in outcome emails to promote transparency.

  • In cases where anonymous reporting was used, limitations will be acknowledged.

Re-Entry and Follow-Up

  • If banned or rejected, individuals may request a review no sooner than 12 months from the original decision.

  • There is no guarantee of re-entry, and discretion remains with Viper Safeguarding and UnScene.

  • Any guest who was harmed will be informed if a banned individual is re-approved.

  • Guests may request not to be present at the same event as certain individuals (subject to practical limitations).

Accountability and Shared Responsibility

Unscene encourages guests to attend with people they trust. While each guest is responsible for their own conduct, those who apply together may be held to a shared standard of behaviour at the event.
If one person is found to be in serious breach of the Code of Conduct, their named guest may also be asked to leave. This is not automatic but may be applied to prevent further risk or disruption.

Discretionary Power

Final authority rests with Viper Safeguarding and Unscene organisers.
In exceptional cases, action may be taken without a formal complaint if there is clear evidence of serious misconduct or community risk.
All decisions are logged and reviewed periodically.
Unscene reserve the right to refuse or remove membership based on behaviours they cannot reasonably or effectively manage.

Decision-Making and Sanctions

All decisions regarding reports, conduct, or membership are made on a case-by-case basis. Unscene recognises that each situation carries unique context, intent, and impact.

Outcomes may include education, warnings, temporary suspensions, or permanent bans. These decisions are based on the information available, the level of risk to others, and the potential for behaviour change.

Temporary bans are typically used when a guest’s actions or boundaries raise concerns that require time, reflection, or further information. Permanent bans are reserved for clear, repeated, or serious breaches where continued attendance would present an ongoing risk to others.

No single report, incident, or accusation guarantees a particular outcome. Each case is reviewed individually, considering evidence, pattern of behaviour, and community safety.

8. Sanctions and Outcomes

Behaviour That May Lead to a Warning

  • Minor breaches of rules

  • Unclear but uncomfortable conduct (with no evidence of harm)

  • Early red flags (e.g. hovering, intense pursuit, first instance of ignoring boundaries)

  • Isolated but inappropriate language or behaviour

Warnings will be issued in writing and logged. A second warning may lead to a ban.

Behaviour That May Lead to a Temporary Ban

  • Clear breach of consent

  • Coercion or sustained pressure

  • Ignoring a previous warning

  • Boundary-crossing with power imbalance 

  • Being under the influence and unsafe

Temporary bans usually last between 3 and 12 months. A review will be required before re-entry.

Behaviour That May Lead to Permanent Removal

  • Serious or repeated consent violations

  • Confirmed physical, sexual, or verbal aggression

  • Pattern of harmful behaviour across events or communities

  • Any escalating pattern of harmful behaviour

  • Knowingly lying during an investigation

  • Submitting a false or malicious report

  • Harassment of other guests or organisers

  • Misuse of authority, reputation, or organiser status

In such cases, a guest may be banned from all future events. Guests who are permanently removed will not be eligible to reapply unless explicitly invited to do so.

When we cannot investigate fully

Unscene recognises that not all incidents can be fully evidenced. Decisions may therefore rely on the balance of information available and the priority of community safety.

Where an incident involves conflicting accounts or inconclusive evidence, decisions will be based on overall risk, pattern of behaviour, and the likelihood of harm if no action is taken. Findings may not assign ‘confirmation’ of events but may still result in temporary suspension or monitored re-entry.

Re-Entry Requests

  • Guests who were temporarily banned may request re-entry after 12 months.

  • The organisers and safeguarding lead are not required to grant re-entry and can place conditions upon re-entry. 

  • Guests affected by the original incident will be consulted before a re-entry is granted.

  • Conditions may be applied (e.g. no contact clauses or scene restrictions)

Communication of Outcomes

  • All decisions will be communicated in writing.

  • Outcome templates will be used to ensure consistent language.

  • The reasoning behind a decision will be included where possible.

  • All decisions will be logged and retained in the safeguarding system.

9. Data Storage and Privacy

Unscene only retains the minimum information required to keep the event safe and to handle complaints appropriately. This section replaces any previous privacy statements.

What Is Stored

  • Membership application responses

  • Attendance history

  • Reports received (verbal and written)

  • Warnings issued

  • Ban or removal decisions

  • Staff notes (where relevant)

How Data Is Stored

All data is stored securely in a private digital system managed by Viper Safeguarding. Documents are access-limited and not shared outside the safeguarding and admin teams unless legally required.

Who Can Access Data

  • The safeguarding lead (Viper)

  • The primary organisers of Unscene

  • Additional access may be granted on a case-by-case basis (e.g. for legal advice)

How Long Data Is Kept

  • Reports, bans, and serious incident logs are retained for up to five years.

  • Membership applications and attendance data are reviewed every 18 months.

  • Guests may request a record of what is held about them.

  • Guests may also request deletion of their application data, unless they are subject to an active ban or report.

GDPR Compliance

  • No data is shared with any third parties.

  • Data is used only for safeguarding and membership processes.

  • You can request access to, or deletion of, your data at any time by emailing the organiser.

  • We retain the right to keep incident records where risk to others has been identified.

10. Policy Review and Accountability

Unscene recognises that no policy can anticipate every situation or outcome. Safeguarding is a continuous process that must adapt to the realities of our community and the people within it.

This policy will be reviewed annually, or sooner following any major incident, significant procedural change, or substantive feedback from guests or organisers.

All revisions will prioritise clarity, fairness, and lived experience, ensuring that Scene & Unscene remains a safer, responsive, and accountable environment for all attendees.